On love
My friend Aaron wrote a blog post recently… this was my reply. If he allows me to repost his post I will.
On Love
I agree ...
It sucks the little girl got hurt. It sucks that the man has lost his masculinity. We are broken people since the time of Adam. Life isn't going to get any easier. Best to love your neighbors and and enemies then live in a world where we can not forgive.
People find each other for different reasons. Love will never be easy. People have different ways of dealing with issue. Some want to talk about it till they lose their voice. Others need time alone. They need time to think.
The best anyone can ask for is forgiveness and a supporting partner that will work with them in the good times and bad.
Wedding vows are a strong bond. You are saying to the other person, Listen, I know you have your faults and I have mine too. I want to open myself up to let you see all of my faults. I want to give you a place in my heart where you can come for compassion. I want to work on things.
God wept when Adam choose Eve over God. God created Adam and Eve, but when Eve ate the fruit, Adam had a choice. Stay with Eve or stay with God
Out of compassion Adam chose Eve because he didn't want her to be alone. God understand that the "beauties" in our life matter to us. That companionship is a need that we strive for. But we are broken people and the doubt, the pain, and the anger often consume us.
And it is in these moments God comes and say.. "I am here. I will hold you. I will protect you. With me all things are possible." Often we are so busy trying to fix everything that we can not hear him. Often we forsake God saying "why do you make it so hard".
But God has a different view. He says," Don't you understand (Ryan/ Aaron/ Adam) that I will never forsake you. I want you to talk to me, ask advice, let me guide you. I am not doing this because I enjoy your suffering. I am your father and it pains me to see you suffer. Give your love to me and I will help you through."
And that's where love needs to start. On every American dollar bill our forefathers said it.
"In God we trust"
That’s how I see it. The love that we need to show others is the love the father shows to us. I need to show a forgiving, compassionate love. Maybe that’s something that people in past relationships didn’t understand. With me, if you do something you think would hurt me… say your sorry, mean it and I will forgive you. I will move on. We will work on any issue that will arise and I will let the past is the past. The past is location not a destination.
If a person is sorry for hurting me…I can’t hold a grudge. It’s not my nature.
You know talking about all this relationship stuff brings me back to when I was with Diana. I think the downfall in that relationship was when I received an IM from someone that said Diana was cheating on me. The person wouldn’t say who they were, but knew enough about Diana and the classes that I allowed myself to believe them. Instead of just coming out to Diana and saying what I had heard... I let things steam. I assumed things and I shutdown.
Looking back now, Diana is not the kind of person to do such a thing. Hindsight is 20/20. I think that relationship (my first) conformed some of my other relationships. I now have trust issue. It’s interesting to look at the dichotomy of my relationships. I trust people until I get this seed of doubt. Why do I get this way? I have some theories but it sometimes deals with the reaffirmations of love. Let’s say a relationship gets in its first fight. I don’t feel loved and I let things spiral. With me (like Aaron) I need to know I am loved. Maybe that’s a weird thing for a guy to say. Usually it is the other way around. That the woman wants her husband to say I love you more. When relationships pull away from me… I freak. I want to fix things so bad that I worry. I get jealous.
I get resentful. I shutdown and I lose the thing that made the relationship sparkle.
It’s day and night with me. I shine during the good times. I am dull during the bad.
I can’t be the only guy out there that does this. In the 27 years I have lived I am now starting to understand I have to have hope in things that I can’t sometimes understand. I had a good friend last night tell me that. She said “Have hope”.
Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13)
God is Hope.
Peace, hugs and handshakes,
R-
On Love
I agree ...
It sucks the little girl got hurt. It sucks that the man has lost his masculinity. We are broken people since the time of Adam. Life isn't going to get any easier. Best to love your neighbors and and enemies then live in a world where we can not forgive.
People find each other for different reasons. Love will never be easy. People have different ways of dealing with issue. Some want to talk about it till they lose their voice. Others need time alone. They need time to think.
The best anyone can ask for is forgiveness and a supporting partner that will work with them in the good times and bad.
Wedding vows are a strong bond. You are saying to the other person, Listen, I know you have your faults and I have mine too. I want to open myself up to let you see all of my faults. I want to give you a place in my heart where you can come for compassion. I want to work on things.
God wept when Adam choose Eve over God. God created Adam and Eve, but when Eve ate the fruit, Adam had a choice. Stay with Eve or stay with God
Out of compassion Adam chose Eve because he didn't want her to be alone. God understand that the "beauties" in our life matter to us. That companionship is a need that we strive for. But we are broken people and the doubt, the pain, and the anger often consume us.
And it is in these moments God comes and say.. "I am here. I will hold you. I will protect you. With me all things are possible." Often we are so busy trying to fix everything that we can not hear him. Often we forsake God saying "why do you make it so hard".
But God has a different view. He says," Don't you understand (Ryan/ Aaron/ Adam) that I will never forsake you. I want you to talk to me, ask advice, let me guide you. I am not doing this because I enjoy your suffering. I am your father and it pains me to see you suffer. Give your love to me and I will help you through."
And that's where love needs to start. On every American dollar bill our forefathers said it.
"In God we trust"
That’s how I see it. The love that we need to show others is the love the father shows to us. I need to show a forgiving, compassionate love. Maybe that’s something that people in past relationships didn’t understand. With me, if you do something you think would hurt me… say your sorry, mean it and I will forgive you. I will move on. We will work on any issue that will arise and I will let the past is the past. The past is location not a destination.
If a person is sorry for hurting me…I can’t hold a grudge. It’s not my nature.
You know talking about all this relationship stuff brings me back to when I was with Diana. I think the downfall in that relationship was when I received an IM from someone that said Diana was cheating on me. The person wouldn’t say who they were, but knew enough about Diana and the classes that I allowed myself to believe them. Instead of just coming out to Diana and saying what I had heard... I let things steam. I assumed things and I shutdown.
Looking back now, Diana is not the kind of person to do such a thing. Hindsight is 20/20. I think that relationship (my first) conformed some of my other relationships. I now have trust issue. It’s interesting to look at the dichotomy of my relationships. I trust people until I get this seed of doubt. Why do I get this way? I have some theories but it sometimes deals with the reaffirmations of love. Let’s say a relationship gets in its first fight. I don’t feel loved and I let things spiral. With me (like Aaron) I need to know I am loved. Maybe that’s a weird thing for a guy to say. Usually it is the other way around. That the woman wants her husband to say I love you more. When relationships pull away from me… I freak. I want to fix things so bad that I worry. I get jealous.
I get resentful. I shutdown and I lose the thing that made the relationship sparkle.
It’s day and night with me. I shine during the good times. I am dull during the bad.
I can’t be the only guy out there that does this. In the 27 years I have lived I am now starting to understand I have to have hope in things that I can’t sometimes understand. I had a good friend last night tell me that. She said “Have hope”.
Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13)
God is Hope.
Peace, hugs and handshakes,
R-
3 Comments:
It's so refreshing for me to see you young people put your lives in God...If I've learned anything in my life...That's where it's at....God Bless you and keep that FAITH!!!!
Your's In Christ
SG
Excellent post GD - thank you.
So often we get tied down by the activities, stresses and challenges of life, that we lose sight of God's awesome care for every part of our lives.
I know I've sat struggling through the first hour of many an exam paper and realized I haven't once asked God for a helping hand. Its pretty amazing to feel Him take control of one's life.
In God we (need to) trust.
Miles
A wise man (or maybe just a wiseguy, you'd have to ask him...) said:
God is love. All love. Even the types of love someone else doesn't like. To block love or it's expressions, you are actively defying and opposing God.
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